ONE THING I WISH MUMS KNEW

There's one thing I wish mums knew.

Well, that's not entirely true. There's LOTS of things I wish mums knew. Like how in awe of them I am, how strong & resilient they are, how capable & super-human their ability to love, give-of-themselves, & show up again and again is. And how they're the perfect parent for their perfect child.

But there's something else I wish mums knew.

I wish they knew the best way to stop the fatigue, worry and fear is to listen to their thoughts.

Does that sound strange to you? It's ok if it does - it did to me many years ago too. That is, until I experienced it myself.

When my children were younger, I'd get scared for their future and scared of their feelings (you know, those moments when you'd do anything to stop your child feeling sad, hurt, angry or upset). I'd do the cycle of being a 'good mum' then falling short of that, leading to more guilt and shame.

As I move closer to 3 decades of parenting and teaching, I've come to realise those fears and the cycle of up-and-down parenting continues in mothers until they discover this one thing:

a mothers thoughts control her feelings, which control her actions and therefore her results.

In 2014, I realised I could choose ... consistently. I could choose different thoughts, which would cause different emotions, which led to better reactions and therefore better relationships. And less berating of myself. I'd had sporadic moments of 'being calm or controlled', 'present' and all those 'good mum' words, but after 20 or so years of parenting (don't take as long as me) I made the mental shift, took back ownership of my thoughts & from that moment on, saw the ripple effects of this invaluable awareness.

I'm human, so this unresourceful cycle can still rear it's ugly head - but gee I'm grateful for the reduction of these moments. And you can have it to. Start catching your thoughts. Acknowledge & thank them, then re-choose a BETTER thought. A better thought that moves you toward the feeling you want to feel, the action you want to take and the results you want to see.

So here's to you - the mothers seeking the better version of themself ... without the guilt and shame.

Take care,

Catherine

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