MAKE THESE WOMEN YOUR PEOPLE

There's a lot to say about the value of friendships. Studies even suggest the quality of friendships can positively impact the longevity of a woman's life! And if we look at it from a theoretical viewpoint of human needs, belonging to a tribe IS lifesaving. This is why some children, teens and even adults, will do anything to fit in. They will mould themselves like a chameleon to not stand out, to fit in, because of the unconscious need that if they don't, they'll be on their own, which hundreds of years ago, literally did mean death.

I agree with all these findings and rationales, but today I'm offering a perspective more relevant to 2023. AND to moving you closer to living the life you dream of, 'cause I'm all about that! The life you dream of might include:

- personal goals, like physical weight, energy or strength

- financial goals

- study/career goals

- luxuries, like home renos, a new caravan or holidays

What's fun about designing your dream life is just that: it's YOUR dream, so you get to choose! 

Who are these two women you need to make 'your people', you're asking?

Your past and future self!

Hear me out. It's 2023, not the time of cave dwelling, hunting for food or being chased by saber-tooth tigers. I completely agree we benefit from having 'our people', those special few who just get us (shout out to our peep - we appreciate you!) But before - and even after - we create these relationships, it's essential we build, honour and nurture the relationship we have with ourselves. Our past, present and future selves.

In last week's member's only podcast, I discussed this topic, thanking your past and future self. The more I read about friendships, the more convinced I am that you appreciating, making time for and consciously supporting your past and future selves is an essential key to creating the life of your dreams.

Rather than friendships, apply these quotes to your past and future selves:

"The best kind of friendships are fierce lady friendships where you aggressively believe in each other, defend each other, and think the other deserves the world". What if your present self believed this about your past and future selves? What if, rather than berating yourself, you defended your past and future selves?

"Don't allow those who have let you down keep you from trusting those who will lift you up." I love this quote in relation to Self, because of the power behind YOU being the one to bring trust to your future self, knowing she has the wisdom and intention to be the woman you dream of, regardless of the behaviours and results of your past self. You not being the one to keep you down. Powerful.

So go do that beautiful person, knowing if all else fails, when the $hiznik hits the fan and life or people bring you down, you've got THE BEST friend to cheer you on, pull you up and get you motivated agian: YOU.

Until next time, stay wonderful and enjoy,

Catherine

PS if you want help making peace with your past or getting excited about your future, come coach with me