4 BELIEFS FOR THE EMPATH MUM

There's so much you can't know before becoming a mum.

You can't understand the impact of this 24/7 role.

You can't begin to comprehend the fatigue.

You can't learn the 'right way' to parent your child (hint: there is no right way)

And you can't prepare for the emotional pull this little being will have on your heart. When they're tiny, as they begin to run through your home like a whirl-wind, while they nap, grow, become teens and even when they become adults. Your heart grows with them, constantly wondering if they're ok. Did I teach them enough? Was I there enough? Did they know they were the most important thing in my world? Have I given them the skills to succeed in this game of life?

Seeing our children in emotions such as sadness, fear, anger or anxiety can trigger us. Big Time! There's not a mother who doesn't feel her heart break when her child's does .... even the mums with the tough exterior, the 'suck-it-up-sweet-heart-and-welcome-to-the-real-world' mums. Their hearts break too.

But the empath-mums.... whoa. 

When their darlings are hurting, it's like physical pain to the mums and a problem that needs attention NOW, as thoughts and worries begin swirling through their mind:

- how can I support them?

- do they need counselling? A psychologist?

- I'll book a meeting with their teacher

Hearts begin to race, belly's begin to feel sick and tears sting the eyes ... of not just the child, but the mum.

I wish I could say 'do this ... and that... and your child won't feel sadness or worry again'.

But that's impossible, isn't it? So WHAT IS the answer, for the empath mums and children feeling their way through this human life?

My best offering is this.

Take the focus from the child and place it on your mental and emotional intention.

We've got a few decades on our children, so naturally, we've had more time to practice talking, walking, sharing, negotiating, discerning, working and dreaming. We've also had more time to explore our emotions .... except many of us weren't taught this skill, and instead, became adults who unconsciously allow emotions to sway our lives. We either let them engulf us or we've bypassed them altogether.

If your child's emotions REALLY trigger you - maybe more than the average, loving mum - try on these beliefs, or use them to create new thinking that resonates with you:

- Emotions are the friend of my soul & the messenger of my heart. They are here to keep me safe, loving and loved in a world requiring connection and lessons learned.

- Feeling though the emotional cycle is the greatest life skill for my child. This is how they will develop their emotional intelligence, resilience and sense-of-self.

- My child and I are getting every experience needed for our highest good. It's all lessons or blessings.

- My child has so much competence and capabilities, that they don't need answers from me. Instead, feeling my unwavering faith is the foundation that allows them to find comfort AND growth.

What mantras and beliefs can you add? When your child is feeling big emotions, your goal is to feel safe, calm, controlled (but not controlling). To be an example for them.

Remind yourself of this regularly. Heck, daily if you need! You've got this. Your child's got this. And if the time comes when you choose to seek professional support for them, know there's an abundance of it out there. Just try and access it from a 'clean thinking' perspective rather than letting your fear run your life. 

Your child needs to feel emotions, and depending on their age, they might have only had 4 years to practice! Let's give children the tools, the space and the time to explore emotions before we move to panic and heartbreak.

From a mum who's trying to live this everyday, to you a seeker of personal growth too, stay wonderful and enjoy.

Catherine xx