10 EMPOWERING BELIEFS FOR MUMS ... AND THEIR CUBS

“My children are going to need therapy because of me”

“I get into bed and think about everything I said that I shouldn’t have”

“I worry so much about them. It makes me feel sick”

“Parenting is exhausting. It’s so hard”

These are thoughts I hear from mums regularly and they've certainly played house in my mind too.

Imagine you or your friend saying each of these statements. What would you notice from your friend's body language, her tone, energy, or her facial expression? Do you think she’d be in a mental place where she's solution-focussed and thinking creatively or optimistically? Nope, me either.

Now what’s the impact of her feeling this way? Or of you feeling this way ;-)

• Neural pathways strengthen which makes these thoughts habitual and automatic. Did you know 80% of thoughts are negative and 95% are exactly the same repetitive thoughts as the day before. Whoa!
• The mum is on a slippery slope to hopelessness
• Her light of confidence is looking further away
• Her children are watching, feeling and copying …..

BUT, hang on. Let’s not layer guilt on top of a mums already heavy self-concept, because mums are WAY more critical of themselves than others. She needs to accept the realisation of these negative thoughts with compassion and curiosity.

After all, we’re human beings navigating this game of life, so it’s inevitable we’re going to think unresourceful thoughts and feel unresourceful feelings, right? And it’s super-ok to do this. I’d call it necessary!

The goal’s to recognise when these negative thoughts are impacting your quality of your life: think relationships, health, mental wellbeing, resilience and so on.

Have you heard of the Emotional Guidance Scale? It’s applicable here because it reminds you to choose one better thought. Choosing one more resourceful belief.

Today, I’m sharing 10 empowering beliefs for mums … and their CUBS.

But first, let’s talk about your CUBS.

One main motivation for us all to do this work of personal reflection and growth is for our children. Your CUBS. But I also want you to keep your CUBS front of mind because in addition to your children, CUBS stands for

CURRENT UNRESOURCEFUL BELIEFS

I’m all about easy growth and simple strategies, so take this ACRONYM and run with it, my friend.

When your sneaky thoughts appear, notice them, label them, think of your why (your children, the legacy you want to leave, the way you want to feel, what matters in the moment) and CHOOSE A DIFFERENT THOUGHT.

I wrote a blog post titled The Real Reason You Can't Stay Motivated, in which I referred to the physical growth you see in children, however when we’re adults, our growth is measured more in terms of maturity. Mental and emotional maturity.

Just like we shower, brush our teeth and wash our clothes, we need to tend to our mental game. DAILY! The more we do this and the more regularly we choose better thoughts, the more habitual they become. After the stats I shared earlier, all I can say is Phew!

Here’s a few EMPOWERING BELIEFS to get you started. I left number 10 ready for your personal touch 😊

1. I am the perfect mother for my children. They chose me and I chose them which means we’re made for each other
2. Just because I’m (tired, flat, frustrated, lonely) doesn’t mean I’m failing. My emotions are merely communication for my growth.
3. I’m doing a role NO-ONE has done before me. There’s never been a me, raising my child. Of course I’m working it out as I go!
4. The more I know myself, the more I’m a safe space for my children (their personalities, trials and triumphs)
5.  I’m capable – I’ve got this OR I can change my tactics at any time!
6.  There are so many resources available to me
7. My growth is making positive changes for my future lineage
8. I will only view my children as capable ready for the life lessons and blessings that are out of our control
9.  Motherhood is so much easier than I’m making it!
10.  

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Until next time, stay wonderful and enjoy,

Catherine